It is said that the purpose of life is to become the best version of yourself. I believe this and strive to live to that every single day. Recently, I found to a great new listen called “The Epic Living Podcast” by Jim Simcoe. You can find this on I-Tunes and it’s definitely worth checking out. Jim is a laid back surfer dude/business man who also coaches people on achieving their version of the “Epic Life”. In a recent episode, Jim talks about Arnold Schwarzenegger’s 6 rules of success. These really resonated with me so I’d like to share them with you.
#1- Trust yourself ~ No one else is uniquely you! No matter how many friends you have, or how great your family is at supporting and cheering you on, there will come a time when you just have to depend on numero uno. Know yourself and always be true to who you really are. You may need to “play a role” for others or employ the whole “fake it ‘til you make it” strategy from time to time. Like it or not, that’s life. We’ve all been there. But at the end of the day, know who you really are inside and out. Trust yourself to do the right thing. If you can’t do that, you will never get others to trust and believe in you. Trust builds self-confidence and there is nothing sexier than a confident woman!
#2- Break some rules ~ The world is full of signs, people telling you ‘no’ and rules. So much so that often you can become suffocated with peoples “best intentions” to protect you from yourself. You can’t step too close to the edge of a cliff, or swim in a sparkling blue deserted quarry without risking to wrath of “the man”. (Don’t ask me how I know about that last one, that’s another story.) My take on rules is simple. As long as you are not doing harm in any way, sometimes it’s your duty to break the rules. Years ago, while vacationing in Hawaii with friends, we broke several rules, (hurting no one in the process) and made some of the most wonderful memories that will last for the rest of my life. Often the best experiences are had, strongest friendships are made and the shaping of your life happens when you color outside the lines. Don’t be afraid to challenge things you don’t believe in. If you truly want to live an “epic” life, sometimes you have to break the rules.
#3- Don’t be afraid to fail ~ Last time I checked, I am not perfect and neither are you. If you always do everything right, than you never learn anything. It’s in those moments of failure that not only do you learn what “not” to do, but you also shape and define yourself. You get the chance to decide if you’re going to let failure defeat you or if are you going to get up, dust yourself off, and come up with an even better way to succeed. Failure reminds you that you’re human. It’s humbling and sometimes embarrassing but I promise you, it’s not permanent and the scars will fade. Really, what’s the worst that can happen? When I fail, I find that it just reinforces my resolve that much more because believe me, this girl won’t be held down by something as silly as failing. Failing means you tried. Trying means you are living. Living is what you were put on this earth to do! Never stop failing.
#4- Ignore the naysayers ~ Every time you allow them to seep into your consciousness, it takes your eyes off your goal and saps energy from you. This is a huge one for me. Let’s face it folks. I’m pretty much the poster child for doing crazy things that, according to all the normal people, are never going to work. I’m going to quit my job and live on a 38’ boat with no safety net to catch me. I decided to create an online business in a category that is very crowded…ok let’s be honest, “saturated”!! Hell, Youtube videos have been made to poke fun at people like me….people who make jewelry. I remember I once told someone that I was going to sell my jewelry online to help support our cruising lifestyle. She responded flat out that I would not be successful because everyone was making jewelry. Well, you know what? 8 months later I’m selling jewelry online (and not just to my mom). I design beautiful custom orders every month and am building my magpie flock on social media every day. I’m constantly learning new skills, honing my techniques and looking for new outlets for my creations. Every day I do something that connects me to that goal. Every day I sparkle. Oh, and guess what? Someone’s husband just bought a beautiful silver bracelet from little old me. Guess who it’s for? Yep….”not successful” my ass.
Rule #5- Work like hell ~ Think about all the things in your life that matter the most. Then think about what it took to experience them. If you’ve raised a child you probably will list that person as one of you most wonderful achievements in life. Now, think back on what it took to raise them. The love, the lessons, the fights, the worry…it was a ton of work. But I bet every one of you would say it was absolutely worth it. I have friends who are liveaboards. For the non-yachting community, this means they live on their boats like we live in our house with one big difference. If you don’t like the view, you have the ability to change it by just pulling up the anchor. To many people, their life looks simple, easy-peasy and carefree. The reality? It’s a shit ton of work. Boats always want to be “one with the water” in ways that you don’t appreciate and you are constantly fixing leaks. There is no ‘security’ of the known weekly paycheck and the sea is can be an angry mistress when hurricanes decide to form. Not an easy life. Why do they do it? Because it’s freedom on their own terms, of their own making. Jim Simcoe says “the deeper your vision is, and the deeper you believe in your vision, the harder you are willing to work and it doesn’t feel like work.” So, work like hell, and be rewarded with an amazing life.
Rule #6- Give something back ~ One of my mom’s favorite sayings is “pretty is as pretty does.” This same rule applies to helping others. I believe it’s our responsibility to give a hand up when we see someone who needs one. I’ve been blessed with a strong body, a creative mind and the will to make my life the best it can be. If I can help someone realize that for themselves, than it’s the best thanks I can give to the force that helps me. There are no selfless acts. You will get more out of giving back than anyone you are helping so find something that resonates with your soul and lend a hand up.
Hopefully these rules touch your soul the way they did mine. Good luck on living your “Epic life!”
The people who makes maps are the ones that make history- Jim Simcoe